In my line of work it's important to have a connection with my clients - in fact without that I could not do what I do. Often those clients become friends of long-standing. We are able to move beyond the professional relationship and find even more commonalities.
I also seem to have a knack for getting alongside people and making friends. I do feel truly blessed to have this gift too (even though some of the things I know about some of them, I wish I didn't;)).
I have also been blessed to meet a number of people this year that this has happened with. All different personalities but with some common life-threads. Men and women, older and younger.
Don't you love it when you meet people and have an instant connection with them? When conversation is easy, the minutes disappear into hours, when you leave thinking 'gee i would've talked longer'? Sometimes it's a mental connection, sometimes it's kind of... a boy/girl spark thing...sometimes there's a real spiritual synergy (which sounds a bit cringey and supercilious but the readers who know me will understand my drift here).
These relationships take time to develop of course, but I have at last accepted that there are just some people that you 'gel'with and others you don't. True, it can be hard to lead a group, or engage with a non-geller, but I am learning to keep those conversations short and to the point, leaving more time to explore the fun and excitement of building connections with those I feel affinity to.