I applied for another job this week. The upside - a better career path, more variety, more income. the downside, more hours, more compromise on family, more time in the car. So why did I apply? Not because I don't like what I do now, not because I am eager to pursue a new career. No, it is because the lure of more money is very attractive. Now that's not to say that I wouldn't spend that money wisely, but the reality is that the extra income would most likely end up being largely redirected into the 'more of' category.
I heard this today:
Counting blessings helps us want less
One of the themes I keep coming back to in this blog is definitely simplicity, and so this really resounded with me.
It is so easy to want more, to be forever looking for more stuff, more experiences, more satisfaction...which of course is largely a fruitless exercise. but not so easy to find a real (and simple) antidote to all this want.
I think there's nothing wrong with aspiring for a 'better'life, for having goals and dreams and ambitions. The problem comes when we lose sight of the important things that we already have. I'm talking about more than those basic first world commodities like clean water and medical care. Starting by simply thinking about all the abundance in our lives - our families, friends, assets, depth of experience, reminds us that really, we want for little. And, by and large, we have everything we need.
It's about the richness that our lives offer - the music, the books, the ease of access to the outdoors, the amazing technology that allows us to so easily connect to the rest of the world. The relationships we start, grow, and nourish. The small pleasures of each day spent with the people we value most.
It takes conscious effort that's for sure. sometimes it's hard! I am the first to admit I get twingey when I see friends with things, experiences, relationships, that I want for myself.
And so back i need to go to my list.
Count your blessings, and want for less. Yes, that works for me.