Saturday, October 07, 2006

the authentic self

I've been reading a new magazine, called The Mother. It's English but has contributors from all over. There's lots of 'muesli knitter' stuff but the focus is on the 'eco-mother' rather than the yummy mummy (that is such a gross and insulting term I think anyway).

It got me thinking....all this talk about ideals and stuff, the search for the authentic self blah blah. What does it all mean? Well for me, authentic means... what i really am...some ideals, some goals but mostly just what I truly am rather more than what I aspire to be. For example...I recycle as much as possible, I give my food scraps to our free range pigs. I have my son in cloth nappies (although only day time)...I like the idea of eating organically but simply can't justify or afford the price...I co-sleep sometimes but only so I get some rest, being blessed with two very unsettled sleepers...I like the idea of being a vegan/vegetarian but frankly love dairy and bacon too much!

I admire people who are so firm and sure in their beliefs that they'll go right out there on a limb and be happy (or tolerant of) having people scoff, scorn and criticise but mostly I'm not that brave. depends on the issue.

I'm a christian but I don't go out there shouting it (mmm why not, an issue for another post) - in fact lots of my friends probably don't even know. I believe in angels but couldn't imagine that I would ever summons one. I like homeopathy for remedy (I WANT to believe in it!), herbal tea and affirmations but couldn't imagine being rebirthed or hugging a tree! I'm a stay at home mum (WELL it feels like I'm out every day really so not sure if that counts!) but I do work from home, partly running our business - and also doing some other stuff a couple of hours a week.

I feel guilty when I work, guilty if I don't contribute financially, guilty for feeling guilty, guilty for NOT feeling guilty (about working/not working/staying home). Motherhood is my true vocation but I still have moments of wishing it weren't! the authentic IDEALISTIC self says, cook from scratch, grow things, make things, give my kids wooden toys, home school, etc.

The TRUE self says, cook when you can (actually that is every day but I do have junk food in my cupboards, even if it's for me and not my daughter), Yes there's creative things but there's also a Barbie, a Thomas, a TV!) and, having worked in education,I know that school is for me - although i'm thinking Steiner if I can find one nearby).

Does that make me a 'plastic' sandal and candle girl? Maybe, but isn't it all about the authentic self in an honest and real way????

1 comment:

Sasha said...

Oh you are a kindred spirit! I found myself saying yes to everything on your list. Now I look forward to following your posts too!